It has been about a month since my last posting. I didn’t realize it had been so long, I apologize. In the past month, I have been back and forth from Mitahato village to Banana town. After school closed I stayed in Banana for a few weeks—getting ready for Mary’s brother’s wedding. After the wedding we stayed a little longer to relax after all of the festivities. We came back home to Mitahato for a little over a week to spend time with Cucu and other family and friends. Now I am back in Banana for about another week or so until a few days before Christmas. I will spend Christmas in Mitahato and then most likely spend the following week back in Banana. Like I said…back and forth, back and forth!
Similar to Mitahato, many of the residence in Banana know of me now—especially along the common routes that Mary and I walk. Because this is the town that Mary grew is from, almost every day that I am here we are visiting at someone’s house. At Mary’s home there are many young cousins that I love to interact with. Along with them, many of Mary’s fiancé, Sammy’s, family have young kids around. I am very fortunate that I get to do what I love, play with children, even during my break. Michel and Jimmy, Mary’s niece and nephew, are in preschool and we are constantly playing and learning from each other. They are both very interested in English; while I teach them English words they repay the favor and teach me Kikuyu words. We have a lot of fun and we even made a little cardboard house and family that they play with often. Sammy’s sister has a new baby girl Lucy that I am around all the time as well. She is adorable and I hold her every chance that I get. Another sister of Sammy has a toddler that is also very fun to be around. I have never seen a little kid dance and sing as much as him. He is very musically talented and I can tell that he will be able to learn with and through music for the rest of his life. One of the reasons I love being in Banana is for the children that I get to be around. Mary jokes and always says “We have to go back to Banana…Wambui (me) has many mwanas (babies) waiting for her.”
The ceremony was a colorful event although I have to say the majority of it I could not understand because of the language barrier. During the beginning, when all maids and groomsmen were standing, my friend Mercy was interpreting everything for me. When we all went to sit down every one got mixed up and I was not by Morris or Mercy for them to translate for me. This means that all of the presentations, homily, and speeches were not understood to me. After the ceremony, the bridal party traveled to a separate destination to take pictures. We then quickly returned to the reception where the bride, groom, and bridal party danced into the celebration. There was a huge circle around the reception area where almost the entirety of the guests were dancing along to African music. It was a lot of fun to be a part of and watch—I got a lot of pictures to say the least.
Another tradition within Kenyan weddings is for the bridal party to go to a separate, secret, destination after the reception for a dinner party. This is possible because the wedding starts in the morning (10:30), the reception follows in the early afternoon (2:00) and then everyone leaves in the evening around 6:00 or 7:00. The dinner party was at one of Winnie and Peterson’s friend’s house. We ate more food, danced, and a few speeches were given. The entire day was very eventful and by the end of the dinner party we were all very tired and ready to go home. Taxis took the majority of the guests home, or close to home and we walked the rest of the way. I can say for me, it was seconds after I hit my bed that I was fully asleep.
Since my time in Banana, primarily after the wedding, I have begun to change my ways around the house. I have been in Kenya for four months now and I have not cooked a single meal and I have not done the proper amount of helping out that I feel I should be doing. I vowed that I am done being a visitor in my own home(s). Morris has helped me a lot in this change and has told many around me to let me try things out—especially cooking. I have to admit, a huge reason that I have been timid to help is because of the joking and laughing that takes place. It is not that I cannot do the things that everyone does around the house it is just that they do not expect a mzungu (white person or westerner) to be able to; so, when I do help they think it’s comical. I was intimidated by this but by the help from Morris I got over my fear and help out when I can. His advice was that they will laugh maybe the first day and maybe the second but then the third day people will be looking at them wondering why they are laughing. I can say that this has been the case since I have started helping.
This all changed when I started by helping clean the house and room—sweeping and mopping. Then I was allowed and taught to prepare meals—cutting vegetables and sifting through rice and beans. There was one day that some of the boys were building the cow’s trough and I asked to help and they laughed and said I couldn’t hammer a nail. Then I was the one laughing! How could I grow up my whole life not hammering a nail—my dad definitely taught me differently than that! They were pleased to see me do it although they still insisted that they would finish the job.
When we returned back to Mitahato I told Mary that I would be cleaning the upstairs from now on and I wanted to be cooking as well. Since that day I have always been the one to sweep and mop the upstairs and downstairs if Mary is busy. I have also been preparing and cooking lunches and dinners. I am learning how to cook traditional meals every day. I hope to be able to cook meals that I have learned here once I return back to Oregon.
Beyond all of this, the break has been treating me very well. Christmas is approaching fast and I am not sure what to think. I have been a lot more homesick lately due to missing my family and the holiday season. Although I am homesick, I am eager to be a part of the Christmas celebration here. I am lucky that I have a supportive and loving family here in Kenya as well. My next posting will be about the holiday celebrations and what the rest of my break contains. I hope that you are all enjoying your Christmas vacation and truly enjoying your time off with family and friends. God Bless and have a wonderful Christmas and New years!